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I'm Happy

 Snapp secret... my life is going really well right now. But I'm so used to dwelling on the negative that I almost didn't notice. It's almost like I was spending my days looking for negative things to happen, like I was so used to the bad happening that I forgot to even recognize how good today and now is.


I think as a society we get stuck in that loop. The loop of always thinking our lives suck and times are hard. When I used to work the people I would work with would have competitions about who had life harder. Still to this day I have friend groups that do this.


This competition of always having the harder life has even permeated our materialistic items. Don't believe me? Go to any craft fair and I guarantee you that there will be several booths of items for sale saying things like "mommy had a hard day, so it's wine o clock." Or "f' it all to he**." These booths will sell zero things that say "I love my family." Or "I can't believe the life God blessed me with." And why is that? Because being happy with your life is out of style. 


You may even be part of the problem. Think of the last time you asked someone "how is life going?" And they gave you a glowing report. Did you walk away from that conversation relieved for that person, thankful to God that they were blessed? Or did you walk away from that conversation thinking they were lying, or that their life couldn't be THAT perfect because of imperfections you see. I have a feeling I know what your answer to this question is. Because we are all guilty of it.


Well here is a good opportunity to practice being happy for someone. I would like to tell you about how happy I am with my life. My life is going great! I am married to my best friend, we've been married a year and a half and our biggest fight lasted 5 minutes. I get to craft all day which has been amazing. I'm getting along with most of my family at this time. All of our bills are paid and we have a little left over to go on mini vacations a few times a year. Colt is bringing me to Cleveland Tennessee, where I used to live, for my birthday and I am so thankful. I found a good church to go to and I've made friends there. My mental health is better than it's ever been. I have a lot to be thankful for, and at this exact moment I am very very happy!


I'll be the first to admit, I didn't notice how happy I was at first. It took a church meeting for me to realize. The women's group at our church had break out meetings and one of them was with a therapist that I thought was going to talk about being present with God over getting addicted to presents. But it turned out to be a talk about being present with how upset and stressed we all are at all times. She said to think about a major stressor in our life, and to do a breathing exercise around it. 


Dear reader, I couldn't think of a single stressor for myself. Not one. It was at that moment I realized I'm happy. Not only am I happy, I've been happy for months and didn't even realize it. I didn't realize it because society trained me to dwell in the negative.


I've decided I'm done doing that in my life. I will stop dwelling on the negative. I'm going to take an active role in my mental health by being aware of when I'm happy and praise the Lord for those moments. 


Now I'm not saying my life is perfect, there are many things in my life that would make other people cry. But they seem insignificant to me. You can choose to see your troubles this way as well. For instance, Instead of crying over your child lying to you, and thinking you are a failed parent, you can shrug it off and admit you lied when you were a child too and move on. Turn your attention away from insignificant troubles that happen to everyone and instead celebrate the good.


I know it's not the new year yet, but I have a challenge for each of you for the new year. In the upcoming year, drown out societies request to be negative and rediscover your happy days. Take note of days that are truly happy. And if for a week you have more happy days then terrible days, celebrate that you had a great week. Then celebrate great months, and maybe if things go really well you can celebrate a great year. 


I hope you have a great day and a great December!


Lindsay Snapp



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